Saturday, December 20, 2014

i hate when i'm right.

What did the writers lie about? I'm sorry, I can't find any factual errors in the piece. It's ok not to agree with their opinions or assessments. But I'm not sure accusing them of being liars is either accurate or helpful. 
Only members of the Gay News | LGBT community can post or comment.
That was Doug Rose's response to my comment Gay News | LGBT Community at Google+.

Mr. Rose had reshared a link from someone else to a controversial Huffington Post Gay Voices from two gay activists who wrote an "open letter" to gay rights organizations who were exploiting two very unpopular non indictments to make unrealistic demands of them.

As I wrote in an earlier post,we've had bloggers, activists, and or advocacy writers invoke Stonewall,  the AIDS crisis, Matthew Shepard, Prop 8, the repeal of Don't Ask/Don't Tell, and yes  even that big fat non controversy involving Facebook and it's names policy, to suggest or demand that we ought to be out there rioting and destroying property, a notion that is utterly insane, but since when do facts matter?

I was going to remind  Mr. Rose of this fact, but it seems either he or a moderator removed the thread.

Either way, it just goes to prove, again, that some activists have a problem with truth.

We who be GLBT can protest these non indictments without the need for distorting and exaggerating our own history.

I suppose I could email Mr. Rose personally and continue to the conversation, but what would be the point of it?

This happens all the time, me calling out someone when they appear to be letting their egos get in the way of facts, and they, because they're so busy in selling a product and want to much for the opposition movement to love them and like them on social media, they tend to do things like delete postings or better still, they block me on social media, as if.

Here's a point of fact for everyone: I live blocks away from another high profile incident involving a black man killed by police.

In February 2012, NYPD Officer Richard Haste spotted then eighteen year old Ramarley Graham outside a Bronx bodega adjusting his waistband and reportedly thought he had a gun. Haste and another officer followed Graham back to his apartment.

The officers broke inside without a warrant, and Haste shot Graham once in the chest, killing him. Graham was unarmed, and police say he was trying to flush a bag of marijuana down the toilet. His grandmother and his six year old brother watched him get shot.

Haste was indicted later that year, but the indictment was tossed out on a technicality in 2013. A second grand jury declined to indict him.

There were no gay activists and organizations calling for accountability and transparency.  There was no one invoking memories of Stonewall or ActUp.  And most certainly there weren't any black transgender and gender nonconforming people trying to make the incident about them. 

Why is that? Probably because there were no riots and violent protests.  Here, members of the black and latino communities took the streets to march in anger and held rallies but that was the extent of it.

How boring. And how very hypocritical of gay activists to play naive and gullible and think they can get away with it.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

the finger of wag of shame: gay activists exploiting black lives matter

ngblog is presenting today's finger wag of shame to several people, all of whom have written articles guilt tripping the GLBT community into participating in protests and rallies that were born out of unpopular grand jury decisions involving black men killed by police officers.

Matt Comer wrote a piece that was later published on The Bilerico Project where he criticized gay people condemning the riots that took place following the death of one black man in Ferguson, Missouri and then reminded everyone our own movement was born out of a riot that occurred in a gay bar in New York City in 1969.

True that; Stonewall happened because the police decided one night in 1969 to pick a fight with gay and lesbian people in a gay bar and someone decided it was time to fight back. Once people in the neighborhood began wondering what all that noise and fuss was about and they took action mostly by rioting.  And we won.  But comparing Stonewall to a robbery suspect and a guy being arrested for selling cigarettes in a street corner?  Come on... As someone else wrote, while there is plenty to be mad about in regards to race relations in this nation, it is something else entirely to create a false analogy out of it.

Next, Kip Williams; for those with short memories, he served as Co-Director of the National Equality March on Washington in 2009, and he co-founded He wrote a piece for Huffington Post Gay Voices titled, "Dear White Gays: We Miss You in the Streets," where he too gay shamed a portion of the gay community for staying home.

He one upped Matt, not only invoking Stonewall but also several other pivotal moments in  gay and lesbian history:
We've celebrated many victories these last few years. We took to the streets for our own national uprising when California voters passed Prop 8 and stripped away our rights at the ballot, and we won. We repealed Don't Ask, Don't Tell. We established protections from hate crimes and, in some places, from housing and employment discrimination. We've raised awareness of bullying and suicide, and we've fought back against religious persecution at home and abroad. Some of our most beloved drag queens and Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence recently made national news for their successful campaign to change Facebook's proposed "real names" policy. We're making great strides with the ‪#‎BornPerfect‬ campaign to ban the use of so-called "conversion therapy" with LGBTQ youth. And now we're on the verge of establishing the fundamental civil right to marry our same-sex partners anywhere in this country.
I don't even know where to begin with this one except with maybe the most obvious:  Comparing an unpopular policy made by a social media company to the unpopular grand jury decisions in Missouri and New York?


And then there is the recent tag team by two black men, Darnell L Moore and Charles Stephens; They too wrote an "open letter" for Huffington Post Gay Voices titled,
An Open Letter to Mainstream LGBT Organizations That Have Remained Silent on Black Lives Mattering," where they start out attacking the federal hate crime bill named after Matthew Shepard and James Byrd respectfully, and then go on to chastise Gay Inc - my word not theirs - for not more doing more in terms in outreach.

To be fair. these incidents that have taken place could have involved black gay men so I can understand where they're coming from. But from memory their haven't been incidents involving gay black men so instead they invoke the names of two trans women, victims of hate crimes driven by bigotry.

That makes them no better than Matt Comer or Kip Williams.

To be fair, this is just a random sampling of many articles written by advocacy bloggers and writers holding or sharing more or less the same view because the gay rights movement started out of a riot with the police, that somehow we're now obligated to protest any situation involving police violence that occurs just because a special interest group - black transgender and gender conforming people - say so.

I don't know about anyone else but that's not how activism works.

I remind everyone again, I've been profiled.  Someone considered my views at the time controversial, they created an entire case against it and had me arrested for it.  I was forced into doing time for the crime, a point of fact that doesn't matter to most people and gay rights organizations.

They can't care less I can't really advocate on behalf of anyone or any thing because someone is always looking to create an association fallacy out of my involvement or concern over a particular issue or matter.

And being born of Puerto Rican heritage, I can just as easily be a victim of stop and frisk, or worse, maybe moreso than anyone else.

I've been followed around when shopping at a supermarket or box store, too.

But I believe the best thing we can do as a community is not to interfere when people want to create controversy out of an issue that does not necessarily concern us.

So I give the finger wag of shame to Matt Comer, Kip Williams, Darnell Moore, and Charles Stephens for exploiting what is or was our history as an excuse to start fights with police officers and advocate rioting.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

would they have cared if the convict demanding specialized healthcare was gay?

On Tuesday, December 16, a federal appeals court in Boston, in a 3-2 decision, overturned a lower court’s ruling that a transgender Massachusetts prison inmate was entitled to taxpayer-funded sex change surgery.

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Ilona Turner, legal director for Transgender Law Center, said decision is “incredibly disappointing” and “the court got it wrong as a matter of law.”

“Categorically denying any incarcerated person access to critical medical treatment is inhumane and violates our Constitution,” Turner said. “It is well established that sex-reassignment surgeries can be medically necessary and even life saving for many transgender people. The state should not be able to deny someone that essential treatment just because of fears that it may be politically unpopular.”

Jennifer Levi, director of the Transgender Rights Project of Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD), said, “I am appalled by this decision, which means that Michelle Kosilek will continue to be denied the life-saving medical care she needs and has been seeking for years. It is difficult or impossible to imagine a decision like this one – that second-guesses every factual determination made by the trial court – in the context of any other prisoner health care case. This decision is a testament to how much work remains to be done to get transgender people’s health care needs on par with others in the general public. ”

Michelle Lynne Kosilek is a convicted murderer and transgender woman who is best known for the controversy surrounding her attempts to obtain treatment for her gender identity disorder while in prison. In 1990, Kosilek strangled wife Cheryl McCaul, killing her. The presiding judge and prosecuting attorney said it was one of the most vicious crimes they had ever seen perpetrated on a woman.

It's hard to imagine, anyone, let alone LGBT rights organizations demanding taxpayer-funded gender reassignment surgery for this person.

Would these organizations have given a damn had the inmate been gay?

Probably not.

Two more people to add to finger wag of shame series.

the finger wag of shame: lamar advertising

Today, ngblog presents the finger wag of shame to Lamar Advertising.

Lamar Advertising is an outdoor advertising company which operates billboards, logo signs, and transit displays in the US, Canada, and Puerto Rico.

They're also the owners of a controversial billboard that is currently on display along I-95 in RIchmond, Virginia that was bought and paid for by PFOX (Parents And Friends Of Ex-Gays) that uses a pair of twins as an example that nobody is born gay.

However, as I and many others have noted, the twins in the billboard are not twins. It's a stock photo of a male model, Kyle Roux, and Mr. Roux has told an NBC station in Virginia he is “an out and proud gay man.”.

Then there its messaging which is based on junk science.

So why won't Lamar Advertising do what it's right and take the billboard down?

They've done so before.

In 2011, Lamar Advertising was obligated to remove a controversial ad featuring a stock photo of a young black girl in a pink dress with the words, “The most dangerous place for an African American is in the womb" because of safety concerns. People who disagreed with the ad, which was targeting African American women, were harassing the staff of a popular Mexican restaurant located beneath the ad's location.

The ad went down after local activist threatened to protest and the mother of the girl threatened to sue Lamar Advertising.

“Please keep in mind that the advertisement is a message from PFOX and not Lamar Advertising Company,” he said in a statement. “We support the First Amendment right of advertisers and believe that it is in the best interest of our company and the communities we serve to accept advertising copy openly. We do not accept or reject copy based upon agreement or disagreement with the views presented. We are firmly committed to our policy.”


In other words, money talks, bullshit walks, and fuck you gay people.

Shame on you, Lamar Advertising. Stick that finger where the sun don't shine.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

it's a mad, mad, mad, mad queer world

Earlier today, I had someone, another activist and blogger, sort of announce his retirement from online activism because he can't deal with the bullshit from within the LGBT community.

In a way, I can't blame him. Whereas anti-gay activists and organizations will always be known for their hive mentality and never change,
LGBT activism is in a state of dysfunction.  Something has gone seriously wrong. Transgenderists are engaging in open warfare with the gays, lesbians and the feminists, while the lesbians and the feminists are hating on the gays and transgenders, and the gay activists, well, they're letting the sexual minorities and special interest groups do whatever they want so they party, take drugs, and have sex while the bisexuals are having it both ways, pun intended.

Not that there's anything wrong with partying, taking drugs and having sex, but some of these activists are profiting in homophobia, and one would think they would some responsibility and respect for the people who lead or led the fight for full equality.

Being a blogger takes commitment. It's just like love and marriage. I became a blogger and activist because of an earlier situation or incident that took place which has affected both my personal and professional life severely, and that incident has since metastasized into something greater.

It was never about profit or ego or selling something wanting to become a celebrity or pundit.

That's why I'm still here and still my doing my thing while everyone else has gone by the wayside.

My journey is not complete.

But I don't blame or fault people from walking away.  I would too but then that would mean a return to the closet; and I don't know about anyone else but I didn't come out they way I did just to have someone, let alone some gay activist tell me I need to go back to the cellar because I don't fit into the current narrative paradigm, whatever that is.

That's not the equality movement I grew up under.

And I didn't come out and start a blog because of them, although there were several incidents taking place at the time that motivated me to becoming a blogger and activist.

That these people I once fought and advocated for have since become adversarial....I'm still not sure what to make of that. I never did anything to hurt these people personally and professionally. I never raised a stink when many of them sought successfully to advance their agenda through corporate sponsorships and got big business and government on their side.  And I never cared when the liberal media put these guys into their infotainment and newsmagazine shows and made them into celebrities.  It was only after someone someone or group of them sold me out to anti-gay bigot that I became a critic of their type of activism.

That it's been the centerpiece of this blog's theme and purpose is not my fault.

Yeah, I'm trying to avoid stepping into an internet cliche or trope.

But never mind these people.  A great poet once said when people want to show you who they are, believe them the first time.  I wish those who quit instead of fight all the best.

I've still lots of blogging left in me, and lots of questions to ask which remain unanswered:

For example, I'm still at a loss as to how anyone can being witness to the events that has taken place this past year alone, and accuse me of being "off base in a sad way," or how anyone be witness to these wrongful acts taking place within the LGBT community, some of it at my expense and have the unmitigated gall to say or write I'm the one partially responsible for it.

And I still don't know what to make of all these people who, like me, have been villified for saying or writing something someone considered unacceptable dialogue or terminlogy, and they, rather than accepting the fact that it's possible for multiple groups to be oppressed, no instead they want to call me or someone else an exception for the rule.


This is why I stay home mostly instead of socializing.  I'd be crazy to want to have a drink with these people.

Friday, December 12, 2014

shame on you, again:

Go figure; Just when I thought I had found my groove again, I'm reminded once again of my disdain and contempt for Gay Inc.

Although it hasn't gotten much place, I've made it public I'm not happy with current board of directors at and have called for their resignations. They've failed our community, specifically, the LGBTQ residents of the The Bronx and surrounding communities who have been without a community center for just over two years.

But no surprise,  the board of directors are pretending I don't exist or convinced themselves I'm irrelevant.  That doesn't bother me too much; I've also made it well known that I've no interest in becoming a community spokesman or celebrity activist.

What has bothered me, however, is of two recent incidents involving Bronx LGBTQ residents, and no one at +The Bronx LGBTQ Center caring enough to express their regrets and concerns about them.

On December 1, , a  twenty year-old man was arguing with his forty two year-old boyfriend on the street when the younger man punched the older man, knocking him to the ground. The victim, identified as William Ewell, later died of injuries sustained in the assault.  To date, no one at The Bronx LGBTQ Center cared enough to publish or release a statement expressing their regrets to family and friends of the victim.

Now we have a second incident:

On December 2, Dune Janelle Jacobs, an out lesbian identified woman was shot and killed in after she was mistaken for a man. Although  this was not hate-motivated or bias-related, the crime does speak volumes as to how misconception of gender impacts the way gender non-conforming people experience violence here and elsewhere.  As such, someone at should have released a statement expressing condolences to her family, friends, and loved ones.

That they haven’t, again, speaks volumes.

I’m once again calling on the current board of directors at The Bronx LGBTQ Center to resign. It would be great to have someone second my motion, but it seems my motion is mired in complexity.

Seems these dysfunctional board members are holding out until their term expires, so why bother, correct?

Sure, I can wait... In the meantime, there will be more crimes and incidents taking place and The Bronx LGBTQ Center won’t give a fuck about any of it because they’re all too busy protecting their jobs in Gay Inc.

Shame on you, +The Bronx LGBTQ Center

worst persons in the world: parents and friends of ex-gays and gays (pfox)

This past week, the non profit organization known as Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays and Gays, aka PFOX, has been getting all sorts of attention this week for a billboard they put up a along a Richmond interstate featuring a stock photo of a pair of identical twins seemingly looking down on drivers with the message, One Gay. One Not. We believe twins research studies show nobody is born gay.”

Unfortunately for PFOX, it turns out the identical twins are not identical twins.  It's one. And he's gay.

Kyle Roux contacted an NBC station in Virginia via Skype and told them he was shocked his image was used. Especially since he calls himself an "out and proud" gay man.


ngblog takes time out to enjoy a bit of schadenfreude.


Time in.

"The issue isn't the photo on a the billboard, but the actual science," said Chris Doyle, a licensed clinical professional counselor and former board member of PFOX.

But it does matter, Chris.

You and your organization put a billboard featuring a photo of identical twins that reads nobody is born gay.  Except the identical twins are not twins, and the model in the billboard is openly gay.  

Nothing in that billboard is true.

But this is what happens when people try to build a house on a foundation of lies.

And don't even get me started on their logo.

It looks like a gay circle jerk.